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Anonymous asked: So my parents have a rule. "No going on dates till you're 16" I'm 14, and I recently acquired a boyfriend. I really do care for him, but the rule makes it hard for us to see each other since we go to different schools. I just don't know what to do.

If you can’t reason with your parents to let you go on dates, then try to bend those dates to just hang outs, it may seem silly but maybe if you call it something else and play it off as something more casual than a date then they might consider letting you go. Good luck !

- Finn

Anonymous asked: I feel like a terrible person for even saying this but i just need to get it off my chest. I recently added my father on facebook because im leaving the country to study and I thought it wouldnt be that bad, but he keeps messaging me at random times of the day just to talk and I really hate it. Especially when im trying to masturbate or something and there goes my father pinging on my phone. I cant talk to my mom about id bc she kinda hates my dad and i just dont know what to do. Am I horrible?

You’re not horrible. You can try turning off the notifications or maybe change the settings on facebook so that he can’t message you (not sure if that’s possible or not) or for you to appear offline to him.

Don’t feel bad for wanting your own interrupted time.

- Finn

Anonymous asked: (kiss person here again) any place in particular I could utilize said kissing for him

Place as in geographical location? I’d avise somewhere private so you don’t feel watched. Doesn’t need to be indoors, but somewhere without people looking. I think it takes the edge off a little.

- Finn

Anonymous asked: hey, so I just started seeing this guy who's never been kissed before, and I want to give him a memorable one. any ideas? also, how to kiss a really tall guy? we have 11 inches of difference between us...

Pull him down (pull, not yank) and start out slow. Don’t overwhelm him because he won’t know how to respond, so save open mouthed kissing for later when he’s more practiced. Soft and slow is better to start.

Good luck <3

- Finn

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recoveryisbeautiful:

Even though some of the links go directly to the iTunes or Android store, still double check them because most of them are available of both platforms as well as others :)
12 Steps AA Companion (iTunes/Android)
Alura: Cognitive Therapy
ASK &amp; Prevent Suicide (iTunes/Android)
AutisMate
Beating the Blues
Beat Panic
Beat Social Phobia (iTunes/Android)
BellyBio Interactive Breathing
Bipol-App
BioZen
Body Beautiful
BrainHQ
CBT Referee
Circle of 6
Cogmed
CogniFit
Cognitive Diary CBT Self-Help
Cognitive Enhancement Therapy
Constant Therapy
COGPACK
Control Alcohol (iTunes/Android)
DBT Diary Card and Skills Coach
DBT Self Help
Depression CBT Self-Help Guide
Eating D
eCBT
eMoods Bipolar Mood Tracker
Emotions and Feelings - AutismFeelings Book
Fit Brains
Focus Trainer
Guardly
Happy Habits: Choose Happiness
HAPPYneuron
HELP Prevent Suicide (iTunes/Android)
iCBT
iCounselor
iMoodJournal
ImQuit – Quit Addiction
iPromises
iStress
Just-in-Case
Kissy Project
Life Mood
LifeLine Response
Live Happy
Lumosity
Mobicip Safe Browser with Parental Control
Mood and Anxiety Diary
Mood Panda
Mood Tracker
Mood Tracking Journal and Diary
Mood Watch
MoodGYM
MoodKit
Moodlytics
MoodMaster Anti-Depression App
Moody Me
MyBrainSolutions
MindShift
My Mood Tracker
MyThoughts
OneHealth Meeting Finder
OnWatch (iTunes/Android)
Operation Reach Out (iTunes/Android)
Optimism
Overcoming Social Anxiety
Panic Aid
Project Toe
PSSCogRehab
PTSD Coach
QPR Suicide Crisis Support
Recovery Box
Recovery Record
Rise Up + Recover
Sad Scale
SAFE Alternatives
Safe Helpline
Safety App
Safety Plan
SAM – Self Help for Anxiety Management
SAS – Social Anxiety Support
Scientific Brain Training Pro
Self-Esteem Blackboard
Self Help Classics
Sobriety Counter
Stop Panic &amp; Anxiety Self Help
Stop Drinking (iTunes/Android)
STOP!T
StopSelfHarm
Suicide Lifeguard
T2 Mood Tracker
Take Control
Teen Hotlines
The Now
This Way Up
Thought Diary
Watch Over Me – Personal Safety App
Way of Life
WhatsMyM3
Wingman Project
Worry Box- Anxiety Self Help

recoveryisbeautiful:

Even though some of the links go directly to the iTunes or Android store, still double check them because most of them are available of both platforms as well as others :)

4/21 06:32 - gtfothinspo - 19,198 notes
Anonymous asked: hello, can i have some advice regarding sleep patterns? i've always had insomnia, but these past few weeks i've also been having nightmares and sleep paralysis. it definitely shows, i have noticeable dark circles and no energy. anything that might straighten out my sleeping schedule would help! thank you.

Avoid bright screens at least an hour before bed, and if reading or listening to music help you fall asleep faster, do that. If none of this helps at all, please seek professional help. Lack of sleep has really bad consequences the longer those patterns stick, so be careful.

- Finn

Anonymous asked: I just wanted to drop by and say that this blog is really great and that you're all wonderful people. I hope you're all happy or at least okay.

Thank you, we really appreciate this <3

- Finn

Anonymous asked: when is age not a number? (like, when does it matter/not matter in relationships)

Look other than the question of legality, it really doesn’t matter. What matters is trust and consent and honesty. All people involved knowing what they want out of it and what they’re getting out of it. That’s what really matters, if all those things are there then age is perfectly secondary.

- Finn

Anonymous asked: i said some mean things about a friend behind her back a while ago and i know it was horrible but i say things in the heat of the moment just kind of jokingly but now someone told her i said it and the person i think told her keeps starting fights with people but i really dont want to fight with anyone and ive apologised but im just really upset and i dont have anyone to talk to and i cant stop crying

Tell that to your friend. What you said about saying things in the heat of the moment, and about not wanting to fight and tell them you didn’t mean it, try to make them understand how upset you are over it.

- Finn

Anonymous asked: i've been having pretty severe suicidal feelings for the past few days. while i know i won't actually do anything yet, my friends and family are becoming worried. what should i do to convince them that i'm not in danger of anything other than my thoughts, which i've learned to control? also, do you have any tips for what to do when i feel suicidal again?

Learn to replace those thoughts with better ones. When you feel them creeping in, have a song, a book, a movie, a hobby, any distraction at all that you can immediately jump to to get your mind off of it. And stay positive, focus on the good things you have going in your life and live for those, and for all the ones yet to come.

- Finn